I’ve been getting quite a lot of hits on my other post about confinement lady sleeping arrangements at night, and thought that it would be a good idea to expand on why I went with Option C ie my confinement lady (CL) sleeping in the same room as hubby, baby and I.
On hindsight, I really have no regrets with this arrangement. Let me share with you why:
I was able to sleep in the same room as my newborn
To me this is extremely important because I have just delivered my baby and want to spend time with my newborn. And yes this includes night time!
Yes you need rest but you need to be able to see your baby too without walking too far. It’s an emotional thing!
It’s also important vice versa as your baby will most likely be able to smell your milk and feel comforted at the same time.
My newborn had a constant environment at night
He was either sleeping in his cot, feeding on my bed or being pat to sleep in the same room.
He wasn’t being transferred from one room to another.
Perhaps one room was colder and another warmer. Perhaps one had air conditioner on and another didn’t. Perhaps both rooms had the lights offed but the hallway’s light was very bright.
Any change in environment can be off-putting and distracting to a baby still getting used to living outside the womb, especially at night time.
I was able to cope after my CL left
Because I slept with my newborn throughout my confinement I was able to pick up on his subtle cues on feeding, changing etc.
For example, for the first few weeks he required to be fed, then burped, then fed again, followed by a change in diapers, followed by another burp before being pat to sleep.
It made me know what to expect at night and I did not feel at all overwhelmed once my CL left. Win!!
And now, let’s get some of your concerns out of the way! These were my initial worries too but in the end none of them mattered!
What if my working husband’s sleep is disturbed by our baby’s cries?
Men are generally (not all) not light sleepers. Imagine a couple sleeping in the same room as their newborn baby – most of the time the mom will be the one who wakes up and feed the baby while the dad just sleeps on.
He may help if he wants but if he’s got to work the next day, maybe not 😉 That’s why you hired help in the first place!
So try it for a few nights – chances are he might not even stir if you and your CL have it all under control and manage to sort out your newborn before he/she starts wailing.
I want my privacy!
After birthing a baby, your modesty and privacy will be thrown out of the window.
And I don’t mean it in a bad way. You just don’t bother as much, as the most important thing is making sure that your baby gets fed in the easiest and most convenient method possible.
We want our privacy!
This may be a personal preference but seriously? After giving birth to a newborn, there is no time nor energy to do any hanky panky stuff. I was trying to heal myself and had to minimise movement let alone do anything that requires energy.
The most important thing is that we get enough sleep, and baby gets fed/changed/soothed to sleep.
We can’t fit so many people in the room!
We barely made it too! Thankfully my CL is rather simple and did not mind sleeping on our Sealy mattress placed on the ground.
This made it easier to move during the day so that it doesn’t take up too much space and clog up the whole bedroom.
Our sleeping configuration was like this: hubby and I on our Queen bed, baby in his cot next to our bed, CL on the mattress at the foot of our bed.
I am really glad we had a good confinement experience, particularly at night.
I tried sleeping with my newborn separate from the CL on the first day after coming back from the hospital, and boy that was a grave mistake!
I had to carry my lil’ boy all by myself, change him, put him back to sleep. All while trying to recover “down there”!
It was only one night before I decided to use the help we hired. I let go of my ego, my stubbornness and let others help me – and this made all the difference.
However, what works for one might not work for another. As mentioned in my previous post, it really is up to you, the mother of your child, to decide how you want the setup to be.
I hope your confinement will be a great experience too!
Your baby is only newborn once, so appreciate the moment and embrace the hourly night calls 😉
Till next time! xoxo