Confinement Lady Arrangements At Night

Confinement Lady Arrangements At Night

So you have decided to hire a confinement lady, good on you!

I personally had a very good experience with mine and was well rested after the confinement period.

One of the main roles of a confinement lady is helping to take care of the newborn baby at night.

The first 30 days postpartum would be one of the tougher times.

As your baby is still adjusting to being in the outside world, they require constant attention and checking. Most babies would require a feed at least every 2-3 hours throughout the day and night early on.

For first time mothers, breastfeeding would be a whole new experience. At the same time, your body would be in the process of healing after all that hard work throughout your pregnancy and delivery.

How do you balance between both – taking good care of your baby as well as yourself? How would you maximise the help from your confinement lady, especially at night?

Here are some possible combinations that you might want to consider if you want to feed your baby through direct latching at night:

A. Baby sleeps in the same room as you and hubby + CL sleeps in another room + Pass baby to CL to burp and resettle back to sleep

Pros:
+ You get to sleep in the same room as your baby
+ You don’t have to burp or resettle baby which is 50% of the work

Cons:
– You have to call your CL each time after a feed (you have to go to her room to get her or call or text her)

B. Baby sleeps in the own room with CL + CL brings baby to your room for feeds + Pass baby to CL to burp and resettle back to sleep

Pros:
+ All you have to do is feed the baby (you might not even have to leave the bed)
+ Baby will get used to sleeping in own room from the beginning
+ You don’t have to burp or resettle baby which is 50% of the work

Cons:
– Baby would have to be brought in and out of the room
– Your breasts might be engorged or full before baby is brought in (if he is in the same room then you can just latch anytime)

C. Baby and CL sleeps in same room as you and hubby + CL brings baby to you for feeds then burp and resettles baby to sleep

Pros:
+ All you have to do is feed the baby (you might not even have to leave the bed)
+ You get to sleep in the same room as your baby
+ You don’t have to burp or resettle baby which is 50% of the work

Cons:
– Lack of privacy
– Room might be cramped with so many people

If you want CL to feed your baby with expressed breast milk or infant formula, you will be able to stretch out your sleeping time at night.

That said, there is a higher chance of having engorged breasts if you leave them be without latching or pumping for 4-6 hours. Most mothers I know who express their milk would have to wake up and pump during the night anyway to maintain supply.

Bear in mind, it is advisable to feed your baby through the direct latch to the breast in the first month if possible. This is to establish and encourage milk supply during the early days of breastfeeding.

It is also advisable not to introduce bottle feeding to your baby initially because the sucking motion is different – getting milk from your breast is different from getting milk from the bottle. They actually have to work harder sucking at the breast.

Feeding your baby too early with a bottle before they have “mastered” getting milk from the breast might confuse them, or they might prefer drinking from the bottle instead because it is so easy to get the milk.

Finally, it is recommended that babies sleep in the same room as their parents, either in a bassinet or cot, at least in the first 6 months to reduce the incidence of SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome).

IN SUMMARY

Every mother has different priorities and preferences. Some might want to stay in the same room as the baby and some might not; some will want to breastfeed by latching, some prefers to bottle feed.

Each baby is different as well. Some resettle back quicker than others, some are fussier and require more attention.

As a mother to your baby, you should decide what is best for the both of you.

For me, I went with Option C as I wanted to be in the same room as my baby, and think it would be easiest for both me and my CL that she sleep in the same room as us.

There are so many different ways the CL can help you at night. All you have to do it to decide which one fits your lifestyle and preference best.

Till next time! xoxo

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